I was making a cup of coffee yesterday morning, and whenever I do, I always search around my cupboard for the big mug. It’s not always there, but when it is, I love to use it. It’s light brown, wide with a rounded rim, and made of much higher quality material than any of the “Best Dad” coffee mugs it hangs out with.
I turned on my Keurig® and let the steaming coffee seep out as I went to respond to some emails I had been putting off. When I came back, the mug was barely a third of the way full. The machine’s “Add Water” light was flashing blue.
Normally, I would have just filled the machine with water and continued with my morning ritual. Instead, I spotted something noteworthy.
I picked up this huge mug, cradling this tiny bit of black coffee; I swirled it around a little and thought to myself, “it sure looks prettier that way.”
The space was beautiful.
Now there’s no way around it. That machine was going back on, and that mug was going to get its fill. However, something about that image resonated with me.
Space is captivating.
In his book A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle discusses the significance of space and form. Osho, a spearhead in the fields of spirituality and mediation, heeds the importance of going inward to find the space within. You can find this lesson reoccurring in many ancient spiritual texts.
In its purest essence, space is attractive. We can find it as a black backdrop to the starlit sky, on our dinner plates at a fancy restaurant, in the silence of an auditorium as an audience settles down. It’s peaceful, pleasant, and inspiring.
But our lives are filled with substance. Thoughts, emotions, ideas, grievances, expectations.
You want to achieve a goal, how do you do so? You fill your mind with thoughts, schemes, and plans.
You suddenly notice an absence of something in your life, how do you respond? You fill the void with grief, analysis, and judgment.
You want to reach a certain emotional state, how do you get there? You search for it in a material object, seek it in a partner, or pursue it through medication.
All forms. All substance. All fillers.
Where is the space?
Can you remember the last time you weren’t consumed in thought, consumed in emotion, consumed in expectation?
We continuously use layers and layers of substance to feel fulfilled.
There is no balance. There is no space.
How are you supposed to grow, if you have no room to? How are you supposed to find happiness, if you don’t find the space for it?
These types of philosophical questions force me to examine the allure my nearly empty coffee mug.
Do we admire space because of an absence of it in our daily lives? If so, how do we find more of it?
That is why I’m so excited to introduce our first guest blogger, Patrick Ananda.
There is no more qualified person to give us the answers than Patrick, a proven self-help coach, the founder of the CenterManProject, and an expert in reestablishing the balance between space and form.
Patrick specializes in teaching men unshakable confidence, but he recently has expanded his practice to teach and counsel women as well. He writes in way that will inspire you to escape the trap, so I am honored to have him.
Next week, we’ll learn a little more about him. After that, I am going to give him free reign. Because his work is more than worthy of it.
I invite you to come back then. Together, we will learn how to open up and receive what world has been withholding from us.
Read Finding Space with Patrick Ananda – Part Two Here